Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. We seem to keep having the same fights about his needy ex-wife and the negative impact she has on our relationship. Despite my wish to appear mature and chill, I have a strong distaste for the ex-wife. She attaches herself to every ailment for which she can find a symptom, and is on all kinds of medication. The ex constantly sends Adam texts about the kids, from mundane details to complaints about their behavior.
Dear Therapist: I’m Dating a Divorced Man With Kids, and It’s Harder Than I Thought
5 Ways To Deal When Your Ex Is Dating Someone New
You float down the aisle on your wedding day, smiling radiantly at your knight in shining armor. Absolutely nothing can ruin this moment. Except the ex-wife. As you look lovingly at your groom, you remember the 55 text messages his ex-wife sent that morning outlining exactly how she was going to make his life and therefore yours a living hell if he had the audacity to marry you. Never mind that their divorce was 10 years ago. You glance around the church to make sure she isn't camped out behind the nearest flower arrangement with a bazooka pointed at your head. You wonder if you can survive this much drama.
Coming to terms with your ex-wife's boyfriend
When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me. The fix : My advice is to block them both the second the status appears. Is she prettier than me? Is she smarter? Is she taller?
And then for some reason, you remember one of your exes. You start to wonder how your ex is or what your ex is up to. So you get on Facebook to have a little peek into the life of your ex. You see that the little thumbnail of a profile picture has two people in it. You tap on it and out pops a photo of a deliriously happy couple, with their cheeks squashed together.